Quando acabei de ler o texto, fiz aquela pausa, soltei a respiração que estava presa e olhei para o nada para refletir... como a gente faz com um bom livro! Que texto! Me identifiquei tanto...fui uma criança agitada também, geniosa e desbocada (como diz minha mãe rsrs), gostava de inventar brincadeiras diferentes (laboratório kkkk) e levava sempre chamada de atenção na escola por conversar demais. Aí veio a adolescência em uma escola nova e eu me refugiei na timidez para ter paz, mergulhei nos livros, nos meus sonhos de carreira e cá estou sempre lembrando com carinho da Raquel que eu era e que tento continuar sendo!
amiga, muito obrigada! fico super feliz que o texto tenha ressoado assim com você e é isso, acho que "adolescência" acaba sendo uma palavra-chave. a gente aprende a esconder partes de si e leva um tempo até reencontrá-las novamente.
Amei a foto 🤍 a reflexão incrível, como sempre. Eu não fui uma criança tão expressiva, eu era bem introspectivo e vivia criando cenários sozinho, lendo. Eu comecei a ter mais amigos porque era bom em jogos online, então eventualmente eu comecei a jogar e ter um círculo de amigos dos jogos na escola. Acho que hoje em dia eu fico pensando na minha versão mais jovem também. Eu quero ser uma pessoa que o Lucas criança/teen ia olhar e falar "meu deus, que cara legal, queria que ele me levasse pra passear, quero ser igual a ele". Uma relação meio "meta" kkkkk eu imaginava muitas coisas, quando eu era pequeno, me imaginava um cantor (obrigado por tudo Glee), ou tendo amigos que eu pudesse viver coisas simples porém únicas. Acho que no fundo eu fui realizando essas coisas, e se tornando o ídolo do jovem eu. Não só imaginar as coisas, mas conseguir viver elas.
amigo, sim! o little Lucas ia super se orgulhar porque voce alem de tudo é compositor internacionalmente reconhecido, chique demais. realizou e ultrapassou ainda.
changing can be so weird. i changed a lot throughout my early twenties - as a child, i was always the weird and shy one. would not talk to people, had very few friends at school, my closest ones being from my neighborhood (over 20 years later and they're still my best friends). i remember my first day in high school: i spent a whole week exactly like cady heron eating by myself, not knowing anyone. that changed completely when i first entered university. i became less shy, very talkative, approachable. would go to parties every weekend. dated a lot, made so many friends, and i don't know what exactly happened for me to change - maybe it was the people i was connecting with, maybe it was a part of myself that was always there... but ever since the pandemic, when i returned to my introverted child self (went through a horrible crisis, but didn't we all?), i've been struggling a lot with all these versions within me, the quiet child and the outgoing young adult. like i need to pick one thing to be or else i'm lying about who i actually am, when in fact i don't need to prove anything to anyone? maybe I'll take this as a goal as i'm approaching my 30s: learning to accept all the versions of myself.
loved reading your thoughts on this, I'll definitely return to this in the future. 💖
ps 1 i know i can reply in our native language but i truly enjoy every opportunity to get the english going outside of my job so!!
ps 2 fine I'll rewatch the oc for the 1928202th time. if i cry over the fact I'll never marry seth cohen, it's on you (I'll definitely cry)
Marilia, you are so right. We are always learning to accept that we can be many things at once and that's absolutely fine (and also kind of great). To have the freedom to define ourselves in our own terms is the most important thing, I feel. (and trust me, I'll never get over Seth Cohen hahaha)
really great question! And of course I don’t have a straight answer, but it very much intrigued me as my first thoughts after reading your question were about other people - yes, surprisingly, I was not on the top of my list at first. Maybe not that surprising, eh? I truly admire your openness and honesty in bringing such topics to discussion and really appreciate you making this space a bit more real.
We often learn - especially as women - that we should always be putting other people first: their opinions, their needs, and even their opinions about us, so it truly is a process of unlearning that. Thank you for your comment!
Quando acabei de ler o texto, fiz aquela pausa, soltei a respiração que estava presa e olhei para o nada para refletir... como a gente faz com um bom livro! Que texto! Me identifiquei tanto...fui uma criança agitada também, geniosa e desbocada (como diz minha mãe rsrs), gostava de inventar brincadeiras diferentes (laboratório kkkk) e levava sempre chamada de atenção na escola por conversar demais. Aí veio a adolescência em uma escola nova e eu me refugiei na timidez para ter paz, mergulhei nos livros, nos meus sonhos de carreira e cá estou sempre lembrando com carinho da Raquel que eu era e que tento continuar sendo!
amiga, muito obrigada! fico super feliz que o texto tenha ressoado assim com você e é isso, acho que "adolescência" acaba sendo uma palavra-chave. a gente aprende a esconder partes de si e leva um tempo até reencontrá-las novamente.
Amei a foto 🤍 a reflexão incrível, como sempre. Eu não fui uma criança tão expressiva, eu era bem introspectivo e vivia criando cenários sozinho, lendo. Eu comecei a ter mais amigos porque era bom em jogos online, então eventualmente eu comecei a jogar e ter um círculo de amigos dos jogos na escola. Acho que hoje em dia eu fico pensando na minha versão mais jovem também. Eu quero ser uma pessoa que o Lucas criança/teen ia olhar e falar "meu deus, que cara legal, queria que ele me levasse pra passear, quero ser igual a ele". Uma relação meio "meta" kkkkk eu imaginava muitas coisas, quando eu era pequeno, me imaginava um cantor (obrigado por tudo Glee), ou tendo amigos que eu pudesse viver coisas simples porém únicas. Acho que no fundo eu fui realizando essas coisas, e se tornando o ídolo do jovem eu. Não só imaginar as coisas, mas conseguir viver elas.
amigo, sim! o little Lucas ia super se orgulhar porque voce alem de tudo é compositor internacionalmente reconhecido, chique demais. realizou e ultrapassou ainda.
changing can be so weird. i changed a lot throughout my early twenties - as a child, i was always the weird and shy one. would not talk to people, had very few friends at school, my closest ones being from my neighborhood (over 20 years later and they're still my best friends). i remember my first day in high school: i spent a whole week exactly like cady heron eating by myself, not knowing anyone. that changed completely when i first entered university. i became less shy, very talkative, approachable. would go to parties every weekend. dated a lot, made so many friends, and i don't know what exactly happened for me to change - maybe it was the people i was connecting with, maybe it was a part of myself that was always there... but ever since the pandemic, when i returned to my introverted child self (went through a horrible crisis, but didn't we all?), i've been struggling a lot with all these versions within me, the quiet child and the outgoing young adult. like i need to pick one thing to be or else i'm lying about who i actually am, when in fact i don't need to prove anything to anyone? maybe I'll take this as a goal as i'm approaching my 30s: learning to accept all the versions of myself.
loved reading your thoughts on this, I'll definitely return to this in the future. 💖
ps 1 i know i can reply in our native language but i truly enjoy every opportunity to get the english going outside of my job so!!
ps 2 fine I'll rewatch the oc for the 1928202th time. if i cry over the fact I'll never marry seth cohen, it's on you (I'll definitely cry)
Marilia, you are so right. We are always learning to accept that we can be many things at once and that's absolutely fine (and also kind of great). To have the freedom to define ourselves in our own terms is the most important thing, I feel. (and trust me, I'll never get over Seth Cohen hahaha)
really great question! And of course I don’t have a straight answer, but it very much intrigued me as my first thoughts after reading your question were about other people - yes, surprisingly, I was not on the top of my list at first. Maybe not that surprising, eh? I truly admire your openness and honesty in bringing such topics to discussion and really appreciate you making this space a bit more real.
We often learn - especially as women - that we should always be putting other people first: their opinions, their needs, and even their opinions about us, so it truly is a process of unlearning that. Thank you for your comment!